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Personal mottoes.
Meh. Having an annoying day today. Payment issues from the wedding.

I've been thinking about mottoes or parables I try to live my life by. For a portion of my life, I had "Go, See, Look, Do" framed and hung above my bedroom door. This was something that came from my parent's divorce and a really interesting meditation session I had just before my mother moved to Arizona. It was meant to get me off my butt and actually experience life. Prior to that, I was a lump most of the time. I didn't do ANYTHING besides school, read and watch TV. It helped for a while when I started hiking and exploring Arizona on my own and traveling more in general until I went to college. I didn't remember it until very recently.

In college, I lost the phrase until my senior year when I hung "Just fucking DO IT" on the inside of my dorm room door. I was falling into old habits, especially with exercise and other things after a really rough first semester. I want to get over my own mental blocks, get over myself, and do the things I wanted. I spent a lot of time excogitating the details and staying in place, especially with exercise at the time, that I was stagnating.

I don't have anything similar now that I can recognize in a direct fashion. I've been thinking about it those as Spring comes and it's a good time for renewal, a good time to push past all the stupid mental blocks we set for ourselves. :) it's a theme with me, you see. Though, I've been better the last few years in actually experiencing life, especially since buying a camera.

Do you have any personal mottoes or parables by which you attempt to live?

Yes
25(89.3%)
No
3(10.7%)

If so, what and why?

Current Mood: frustrated frustrated
Current Music: Stephanie Miller Show - 04072009

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world_rim_walke From: world_rim_walke Date: April 8th, 2009 02:24 pm (UTC) (Link)
"You make the world by whispers, second by second, are you blind to that? Whether you make it a grave or a garden of roses is not the point."
-John Gardner, Grendel
abmann From: abmann Date: April 8th, 2009 02:28 pm (UTC) (Link)
What does that mean to you?
angels_ember From: angels_ember Date: April 8th, 2009 02:35 pm (UTC) (Link)
Not so much a motto as good advice to keep in mind when life gets rough:
"Someone once said, 'All good things must come to an end.' What a load of crap. I mean yeah, sure, the good things have to end, but the bad things end too. And then they all start over again. That's just life. And you can spend your time worrying about the bad things, but it'll keep you from noticing the good things, so I wouldn't recommend it."
~Kestral, Queen of Wands

And, of course, a favorite from Shakespeare:
"This above all: to thine own self be true; And it must follow, as the night the day; Thou canst not then be false to any man."
abmann From: abmann Date: April 8th, 2009 02:39 pm (UTC) (Link)
I'm amused that your motto comes from a web comic. Also, that comic shouldn't have ever ended, :)
nidea From: nidea Date: April 8th, 2009 02:35 pm (UTC) (Link)
"There is no time but now." It helps me put things in perspective but also keeps me doing things.
abmann From: abmann Date: April 8th, 2009 02:39 pm (UTC) (Link)
Does it work?
lerite From: lerite Date: April 8th, 2009 02:38 pm (UTC) (Link)
"Always have fun, never die."

Meaning

Whatever I'm doing, I should enjoy it for itself, whether it's game or doing the dishes or transcribing or fighting or fucking or whatever. And death comes on its own--it's not something you need to DO.

I am distressingly faithful to that motto even in the midst of depression. I can enjoy being sad for itself. I can enjoy dropping out of school for itself. And it's not worth dying over (though I suppose that part is good). The problem with it is that there is no motive to do anything but whatever I'm doing.
abmann From: abmann Date: April 8th, 2009 03:02 pm (UTC) (Link)
And how do you plan for the future?
tyskkvinna From: tyskkvinna Date: April 8th, 2009 02:53 pm (UTC) (Link)
Mine is "This, too, shall pass."

Which is to say when life sucks I remember it won't suck forever, but when life's grand also keep in mind it won't be grand forever either.

It's stupid simple, but it's been my mantra for as long as I can remember.
abmann From: abmann Date: April 8th, 2009 03:01 pm (UTC) (Link)
Do you find that remembering that phrase when you're happy impinges on your happiness?
lady_fox From: lady_fox Date: April 8th, 2009 02:58 pm (UTC) (Link)
Make happiness.
abmann From: abmann Date: April 8th, 2009 03:00 pm (UTC) (Link)
Wow, that explains a lot.
From: thegelf Date: April 8th, 2009 03:15 pm (UTC) (Link)
First and foremost "Don't be a douche." Shamelessly stolen from Rookie, because, well, he's right.

Next "If I am not for myself, who will be for me? If I am only for myself, what am I? And if not now, when?" This comes from Ethics of our Fathers, which is basically a bunch of advice from the old great Rabbis. Some of which is excellent, and some of it is just completely whacked out. I really like this one, because it gets into the whole balance of selfishness-selflessness, and then smacks you with a "Don't procrastinate!"

And lastly "If you want something to happen, DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT." Which is pretty self explanatory, and really closely related to your "Just fucking DO IT."

Speaking of, I should finally track down a source of B&W film in Madison so I can join you on one of your photowalks.
abmann From: abmann Date: April 8th, 2009 03:17 pm (UTC) (Link)
Camera Company on the square has B&W film as does Pop Deluxe on State.
happygophucky From: happygophucky Date: April 8th, 2009 03:25 pm (UTC) (Link)
"to thine ownself be true." - shakespeare.

I was going to have this tattooed on my arm this year as a sort of reminder that I can't give anything to anyone else if I don't give to myself and stay true to myself first. but it got sidelined due to not wanting to cause my mom any stress - which is true to myself still because I really hate it when my mom is so stressed out. It can wait... I have the rest of my life to tattoo it on my skin. :)
abmann From: abmann Date: April 8th, 2009 03:30 pm (UTC) (Link)
So, where do you draw the line between being true to your wants and needs and the needs of others?
realization_no1 From: realization_no1 Date: April 8th, 2009 04:23 pm (UTC) (Link)
1. "C'est la vie." (Such is life)
-I try to remember this whenever I'm having a hard time with pretty much anything. I have a bad day, I have too many bills, someone breaks my heart. It's pretty much, "well, that's life. that's just how it goes." It reminds me that this isn't a fantasy land where everything is peachy keen. It's fucking life.

2. "Anything worth having is worth waiting for."
-This helps me be patient. Everything that I've ever rushed into has always blown up in my face. When I want something now, now, now and can't have it - I tell myself this to calm down and put things into perspective.

3. "Golden rule: treat others how you want to be treated."
-Pretty self explainatory I guess, but I really have to try to remember this sometimes. Although most of the time I use it in a different way. When I feel like a shitty person, I treat others better and then I feel better about myself. It's less like how I want to be treated by them, and more about feeling complete as a kinder human...which is then mirrored by them.

4. "FUCK YES AND FUCK YOU!"
-I'm learning to be more passionate about things I like and how I feel, instead of letting other people judge me or get me down. It's sort of like saying, "hey! i like this and if you don't like it, get outta my way!"
happygophucky From: happygophucky Date: April 8th, 2009 05:24 pm (UTC) (Link)
I like your #2 - "Anything worth having is worth waiting for." I have discovered that in my 30s. I never would have understood it when I was younger. :)
nefas From: nefas Date: April 8th, 2009 04:37 pm (UTC) (Link)
"follow your bliss"

...because too often i forget to do stuff that will make me happy because i'm so busy trying to make other people happy. it was a great bit of advice a friend gave me a long time ago.
chandrielle From: chandrielle Date: April 8th, 2009 05:04 pm (UTC) (Link)
No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.
-Eleanor Roosevelt

The weak are more likely to make the strong weak than the strong are likely to make the weak strong.
-Marlene Dietrich

Wanting to be someone else is a waste of the person you are.
-Kurt Cobain

Rather be dead than cool.
-Kurt Cobain

Wherever I am, that's the place to be. Even if it's totally going to suck and be no fun at all, I will make it fun. How can it not be if I'm there?
-Me
tandu From: tandu Date: April 8th, 2009 05:10 pm (UTC) (Link)
"Take Action, No Deed Undone".

It's an acronym.
tandu From: tandu Date: April 8th, 2009 05:23 pm (UTC) (Link)
Also, there's a line from the gnostic gospel of Thomas that I refer to a lot:

"Do not tell lies and do not do what you hate, for all things are plain in the sight of Heaven."

Edited at 2009-04-08 05:36 pm (UTC)
kiwikat From: kiwikat Date: April 8th, 2009 07:03 pm (UTC) (Link)
This is only temporary

Life is a rollercoaster, it's always going to get high and low, that is never going to stop. Enjoy the high points and remember the lowpoints will end. Work to make them end faster

Focus on the positive.

Don't waste time on worry, do what you can about bad situations when you can. Accept that there are situations you cannot change and try not to distress yourself over them unduly.

Treat others as you would like to be treated.

Love your enemies.

Keep busy.
breathe_art From: breathe_art Date: April 8th, 2009 07:18 pm (UTC) (Link)
Ha! My quotes section on my facebook is larger than my "bio". In fact I think my bio says "see above"... A couple of my current favorites:

1) "To hell with reality! I want to die in music, not in reason or in prose. People don't deserve the restraint we show by not going into delirium in front of them. To hell with them!" ~Louis-Ferdinand Celine

2) "If you bring forth what is in you, what you have will save you." ~The Gospel of Thomas


And why?

1) I think that this quote goes just a bit deeper for me than "Just do it." I think I run into the same sorts of lethargia you describe, but then I see all the great stuff my friends/housemates are into, and I feel so... hmmm, inferior? Under-acomplished? Well, I feel like I there's so much that I want to be doing, and I realize that I can accomplish much of what it is I dream of being. I realize that the only thing "holding me back" is my self and my fear of failure, of sucess, of what other people will think of me...

Doesn't mean that I then automatically have jumped right out there and finished all the projects languishing in my closet, or learned all the songs I want to sing. That kind of fear is hard to unlearn. It's a daily process. It's easier to sit there on the computer and interact through the buffer of the internet.

2) This one touches upon a lack of self-worth that I struggle with, and helps to remind me that I have my part to play too. That I don't have to be everything and do everything...
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realization_no1 From: realization_no1 Date: April 9th, 2009 12:22 am (UTC) (Link)
i like this. i'm going to share it with my friends :)
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