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Kiss Him like This!
Photo: narcissuskisses and kiwikat spent most of the post-gift-opening night playing with the art mannequins. Of course all poses were lewd because we're all 12 years old. BUT! She is obviously very dedicate to it. Look at that concentration.

OW. My head hurts. Too much exercise, not enough water. Well. More likely Too Little exercise and Too Little water.

Last night was another good food night. I made apple potato pancakes with pork chops and a "sawmill" gravy - which was "sawmill" because I used Parmesan cheese instead of pepper. The components on their own were acceptable but together they sang. The gravy reinforced the apple flavor without hiding the sweetness of the Yukon Gold potatoes. The pork was buttery and highlighted the cilantro and mirin in the cakes.

All together a very successful dinner. I need to practice my plating, though, as it was beige on beige on beige. Maybe if I'd reserved some apple slices and cilantro to garnish.

I want every day to be Friday. Then I don't watch the clock when I'm out, contemplating how tired I may be the next day if I stay.

People: I have no plans tonight and am dejected!! Who would like to chizill?

I am wearing a silly T-shirt and I feel really uncomfortable.

Enneagram Type 3 - The Achiever

Focused on the presentation of success, to attain validation

Enneagram type 3 - the AchieverPeople of this personality type need to be validated in order to feel worthy;they pursue success and want to be admired. They are frequently hardworking, competitive and are highly focused in the pursuit of their goals, whether their goal is to be the most successful salesman in the company or the "sexiest" woman in their social circle. They are often"self-made" and usually find some area in which they can excel and thus find the external approbation which they so desperately need. Threes are socially competent, often extroverted, and sometimes charismatic.They know how to present themselves, are self-confident, practical, and driven. Threes have a lot of energy and often seem to embody a kind of zest for life that others find contagious. They are good networkers who know how to rise through the ranks. But, while Threes do tend to succeed in whatever realm they focus their energies, they are often secretly afraid of being or becoming "losers."

Threes can sometimes find intimacy difficult. Their need to be validated for their image often hides a deep sense of shame about who they really are, a shame they unconsciously fear will be unmasked if another gets too close. Threes are often generous and likable, but are difficult to really know. When unhealthy, their narcissism takes an ugly turn and they can become cold blooded and ruthless in the pursuit of their goals.

Because it is central to the type Three fixation to require external validation, Threes often, consciously and unconsciously, attempt to embody the image of success that is promoted by their culture. Threes get in trouble when they confuse true happiness, which depends on inner states, with the image of happiness which society has promoted. If a three has a "good" job and an "attractive" mate, she might be willing,through an act of self-deception which is also self-betrayal, to ignore the inner promptings which tell her that neither her job, nor her mate are fulfilling her deeper needs. Even the most "successful" Threes, who generally appear quite happy, often hide a deeply felt sense of meaninglessness. The attainment of the image never quite satisfies.

Threes can sometimes mistype themselves when they mistake the more superficial features of their personalities as indicators of their type. So, for instance, an intellectual Three might mistype as a Five; a Three who is devoted to her role as mother might think she is a Two; a Three in a leadership position might mistype as an Eight and so on. Regardless of the manifestation however, the core of the type Three fixation is the deep need for external

I was a close tie with Type 1.
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assfingers From: assfingers Date: February 27th, 2009 02:29 pm (UTC) (Link)
if your definition of chizilling includes doing our dishes and sweeping our floors, consider this an invite!
abmann From: abmann Date: February 27th, 2009 02:35 pm (UTC) (Link)
If I'm going to clean, I should clean my apartment.
lady_fox From: lady_fox Date: February 27th, 2009 02:39 pm (UTC) (Link)
But the kitchen's clean at least! ;)
abmann From: abmann Date: February 27th, 2009 03:15 pm (UTC) (Link)

I like that enneagram test. I'm a blend of Three and One.
lady_fox From: lady_fox Date: February 27th, 2009 03:16 pm (UTC) (Link)
I'll have to look those up. I'm so 9 it's not even funny.
lady_fox From: lady_fox Date: February 27th, 2009 03:25 pm (UTC) (Link)
Yeah... got them. :)

nathan_lounge From: nathan_lounge Date: February 27th, 2009 03:08 pm (UTC) (Link)
Come visit me. I will cook for you. You can name the number of courses and types of animals. Alternatively, you can cook for me and I will name the number of courses and types of animals.

We can let a random number generating monkey decide.
abmann From: abmann Date: February 27th, 2009 03:17 pm (UTC) (Link)
How far a drive is it? 8 hours?

You're right, I do need to visit you. Not this weekend though. I have a date Sunday.
nathan_lounge From: nathan_lounge Date: February 27th, 2009 03:24 pm (UTC) (Link)
Bring her along. Make a weekend out of it.

Alternatively, Em has a business trip in March and that leaves me with very little to do. It's the 15th - 20th.
abmann From: abmann Date: February 27th, 2009 03:28 pm (UTC) (Link)
She often has plans every night. I don't know if taking her with would ever quite work out.

I could easily drag Fox along some weekend.

ALSO: Did you see my post about blackberry steaks? SO GOOD.
nathan_lounge From: nathan_lounge Date: February 27th, 2009 03:38 pm (UTC) (Link)
Wait, maybe if you explain to her who I am it'll change her mind. And let her pick an animal.

For realz though, you kids are welcome whenever you want.

I did see that post. You're gluing a lot of fruit and meat together these days.

abmann From: abmann Date: February 27th, 2009 03:43 pm (UTC) (Link)
Apples+pork is hardly anything new. The blackberry steak was delightful and new for me though.

Creme fraiche is the best glue.
nathan_lounge From: nathan_lounge Date: February 27th, 2009 03:57 pm (UTC) (Link)
True that.

We just found a place to buy 40% cream at about $2/qt. It's probably bad for our wastelines.
abmann From: abmann Date: February 27th, 2009 04:02 pm (UTC) (Link)
Even worse for your waistline.
narcissuskisses From: narcissuskisses Date: February 27th, 2009 04:38 pm (UTC) (Link)
abmann From: abmann Date: February 27th, 2009 04:53 pm (UTC) (Link)
As I noted when I hung with you at work that day, you make interesting faces when you're concentrating. It is awesome.
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abmann From: abmann Date: February 27th, 2009 04:54 pm (UTC) (Link)
This says you're an addict pretending to be an achiever.
From: nightlikeariver Date: February 27th, 2009 09:27 pm (UTC) (Link)
whoops, i thought i already posted this. i guess i was going to right before i kicked my computer and it turned off.

the description doesn't candycoat it at all for me:

Enneagram Type 4 - The Individualist
Identity seekers, who feel unique and different

People of this personality type tend to build their identities around their perception of themselves as being somehow different or unique; they are thus self-consciously individualistic. Fours tend to see their difference from others as being both a gift and a curse - a gift, because it sets them apart from those they perceive as being somehow "common," and a curse, as it so often seems to separate them from the simpler forms of happiness that others so readily seem to enjoy. Thus, Fours can manage to feel superior to others while also secretly harboring some degree of longing and envy. A feeling of being a member of the "true aristocracy" alternates with deep feelings of shame, and fears of somehow being deeply flawed or defective.

Fours are emotionally complex and highly sensitive. They long to be understood and appreciated for their authentic selves, but easily feel misunderstood and unappreciated. They have a tendency to withdraw in the face of a world that seems harsh or crude, and are often somewhat moody or temperamental. They are emotionally centered and spend much of their lives immersed in their internal mental landscapes, where they feel free to cultivate and analyse their feelings. A desire to manifest this internal world often leads Fours to an interest in the arts, and some do become actual artists. Whether artistic or not, however, most Fours are aesthetically sensitive and concerned with self-expression and self-revelation, whether it be in the clothes they wear or in the overall nature of their often idiosyncratic lifestyles.

Fours are somewhat melancholic by disposition, and under stress tend to lapse into depression. They also tend to be self-absorbed, even under the best of circumstances, but when unbalanced, easily give way to a self-indulgence which they perceive as being fully justified as a way to compensate for the general lack of pleasure they experience in their lives. Rather than look for practical solutions to their difficulties, Fours are prone to fantasizing about a savior who will rescue them from their unhappiness.

Intellectual Fours tend to mistakenly type themselves as Fives, and a heavy wing can certainly exacerbate this tendency. Fours however, unlike Fives, tend to be self-revealing and comfortable with emotional expression.
moocowrich From: moocowrich Date: February 28th, 2009 01:28 pm (UTC) (Link)
I got the same result. We = awesome.
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