Kink(ed) was fun lat night. It was, I must admit, far less crazy than expected. From description gathered and the ravenous way in which people described it to me, I assumed more debauchery. Or perhaps just debauchery of a more hardcore nature than I actually saw. Sure, there were many floggings, many spankings, fantastics rope bondage, electricity play (frickin' cool, by the way), lap dances, boobies, transvestites, transsexuals and making out galore, I just expected things to be more carnal/brutal/rougher.. something like that.. It was, really, tame.
That fact that I call that list tame now is surprising. :)
The crowd was mellow, and sparser than previous events (likely due to the cancellation, rescheduling and general scheduling insanity of the event due to unfortunate life events of exthesuccubus). Sparse enough that seating was readily procurable given the number of people that were milling about. That was beneficial as holding correct posture is draining; I wasn't even in a corset.
We met so many people last night. I can't keep their real names straight. We met/saw graydancer, sculplady, ralinad, evilevi, labelle77,toasteraviator, fencert, cunningminx (to whom I did not get introduced, darn it. Probably my fault in the end [she intimidates me]), jefferyp, alyska, scarymike, bloodlossgirl, eevilyounggirl (I think I recognized her), cfxjosh, his wife whose LJ name I don't know. I apologize if I left anyone out but I don't think they read me so it doesn't matter. :P And of course, Fox and I were there but we don't count. The connection between kink in Madison and LJ is impressive. Blogging in general, though, allows all sorts of fun people to get together.
Regardless, I HIGHLY recommend the event to the wary. It's not creepy. It's not gross. It is well behaved and people are very respectful. Everyone with whom I talked were good people and interesting to boot. Of course, I'm too polite to step in and out of other people's conversations to have really talked to may people (another reason why I didn't meet some people I wanted to meet). I don't feel comfortable group hopping, especially when I feel so out of place. It's an age think that keeps cropping up in my self-defeating mind.
But that is neither here nor there; what is important is the flogging. So much flogging. Flogging like whoa. And one of the rope artists from Milwaukee "crucified" a lovely lady in a vinyl nun's outfit. He even tied "INRI" above her. It was fucking spectacular. I wish I had a camera but it's hard to get permission to take pictures. It would be weird to just start shooting. THOUGH, I did get to photograph graydancer and sculplady's scene which was really hot. I hope I got some good shots. Their camera was unfamiliar and slow. I got a few decent looking shots, i think, of closeups of the two of you. If possible, I'd like to get some of the unedited photos to add to my collection. That was fun. I REALLY wanted to take shots from on stage but didn't want to break the scene. Flashes are obnoxious enough in my mind.
graydancer and sculplady's scene was.. how to describe? Over the course of the scene, graydancer cowed (as I think it felt to me) sculplady into a karada and hog tie. I didn;t see the karada get on because the batteries on their camera died. I had to run (literally) to the Open Pantry down the street to buy new AA so I could get shots of the rest of the scene. (Sorry to miss some of it, guys.) By the time I got back he had her skirt off (she was in pigtails and a pleated skirt to start, which was.. just wow) and was spanking her down to the mat to hog tie her. He roughly bound her feet and coaxed her into further indecent positions with wrist cuffs and a little vibrator.
His intensity was palpable which was in abject contrast to her bliss; she had a curious little smirk and her eyes closed most of the time, even when the vibrator was tied to her crotch. I really enjoyed the contrast of his cold but loving calculation and her relentless submission, if that makes sense. I learn much watching the two of them; I understand the Dominant/submissive dynamic better when I can feel how he does it. It becomes more intuitive for me. He holds himself in a slightly different manner, moves deliberately when playing Dominant. Better posture. Wide eyes. Thin smile, if a smile at all. Take his arms, for example. His movements are not embellished. Normally I describe graydancer as akin to a magician on stage but when he really gets into a scene, that falls away. What is left are the tuned motions of an artist.... and to be a complete dork for a minute, he is how I understand a hoopy frood who knows where his towel is. :) Everything is just right.
As for how he treats sculplady , it's interesting. I find it difficult to quantify the balance between lover, wife, sex object, and art that she becomes to him. I get all these impressions in how he treats her. She, in submitting, allows the balance, I think. But it is as if she's not really there. I don't understand that, never having experienced submission. But I think that the bliss and relinquishing must be subspace that allows her to be all these things in the scene. It wouldn't work were she more actively aware. For example, before graydancer had sculplady on her stomach, feet bound, the scene felt off. sculplady was there trying to find her place. believe part of it to be the need to remain mobile that may have been interfering with it, or all the camera flashes. But I don't get it yet. My lack of understanding may be from inexperience, though.
There was a little play afterward but the scene ended as graydancer unbound her and stood her back up. I think I got some of the better shots in the end, actually, because I got better shots of the rope, graydancer's hands and sculplady's.. well, everything.
I vaguely noted linked ball gags and more rope elsewhere on the stage, but I dunno. I wasn't watching them.
We spent the rest of the night watching various floggings, adjusting Fox's corset, and mingling with people we sort of knew. I was very happy to chat with Fencert some more. Speaking of, if you're reading this please comment on the SCA times. My throwing axes are taunting my lack of skill. I must reeducate myself. Seeing minx give him a lap dance was just, wow. Firstly wow in seeing him, who I had only met helping sculplady move, turn into a powerfully sex presence was inundating. I'd say his presence in this manner is intimidating but it just wasn't it. I liken it to being in the room with a high level martial artist. You know he could kill you six ways from Sunday, but he won't. That pressure is just there to say "Hi" and be wary. Odd to describe but it works in my mind. Further wows include Minx, who is just debilitatingly gorgeous. I found it hard to look at her simply because she is so damn attractive. Also odd to describe, but there it is.
Other moments of note include doing some pretty rope work on Fox. I found some really shitty rope for cheap at Verona's branch of World of Variety. It was the most terrible polypropylene texture but a really pleasant shade of blue. And at a buck for 75 feet I con only complain slightly... slightly. But, it looked really good on her white corset. Good enough that I want to use it again to see how it looks under photo flash. It may work surprisingly well. As erotic tool, it fails spectacularly. I'd like to note, too, that Graydancer complimented my work; I was doubly pleased. Good night rope-wise.
There was much kissing of Evi and looks of lusting from her too. Very nice. Apparently she tested my kissing positions with her hubby (hagbard23) to figure out why her lip piercing scrapes against my teeth. That was funny. But we seem to have a working understanding of it. Though I feel moderately bad that she has changed how she kisses because of of how I kiss. Eh. I suppose we'll just have to work at it. (Feel my plight!).
labelle77 was sexy and her boytoy was gorgeous and in a kilt. Fox, I think, wanted to jump him more than she was willing to admit on the way home. I tried to get her to kiss him before we left but she's shier than I... not that I kissed him but did have a sparkle-y kiss with Labelle. I think she enjoyed it given the breathless look she gave me as I left. :) He he. Go Me! I must repeat this experience many, many times. You know, see if that first after-kiss look was a fluke. Purely scientific, of course.
I think that does it. It was a good experience and I'd like to go next month. The hard part will be convincing spitefairy, smed and thegman169 to come out too. I swear my intentions are pure(ly naughty) but you will enjoy it irrespective of my intentions. :P
There were Greenbush dough-nuts afterward too. Because there are always dough-nuts after a night out.