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9.75 years - Portrait of a Young Man as The Artist
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abmann
9.75 years
I don't have much else to say beyond what lady_fox already said here.

I feel better than expected with our romantic relationship ending and am glad she still wants to live with me. Both I think we get along well, especially with less stress because of this change, and I enjoy having her around.

I suspected I went through the various grief stages over the last month as we talked about us and me and her and the like. This would explain some of the serenity. I am, ultimately, unsurprised which is telling; and I expect it is because we both changed and grew apart and did not tend appropriately to this separating. Such is life.

I feel like I've failed in some aspects but am pleased that we are both friends. I am sad but am not beating myself up over anything.

Yes, and not hating the person who owns half your home is a benefit too. :)

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nidea From: nidea Date: January 29th, 2012 11:05 pm (UTC) (Link)
I'm actually not surprised either, which surprises me, because I really don't know you very well.

I'll tell you what I told her: "Good luck to you both in your new phase of relating to each other."
zesty_pinto From: zesty_pinto Date: January 30th, 2012 12:55 am (UTC) (Link)
No worries dude. Sometimes that happens when you keep your heart open. Hell, it happens even if you try to focus on one person as well.

Maybe your romantic paths will cross again, or not, either way at least it didn't end up like Eternal Sunshine where all you have left are good memories plastered with bitter thoughts.
lex_of_green From: lex_of_green Date: January 30th, 2012 01:09 am (UTC) (Link)
Very much good luck. I hope living together works out, and I wish you all the best.
tyskkvinna From: tyskkvinna Date: January 30th, 2012 03:15 am (UTC) (Link)
I think one of the hardest things is having a relationship (romantic or otherwise) with a person while you both go through fundamentally intense growing phases. You help each other mature and expand and conquer, and sometimes, that very act is what ultimately causes both people to grow apart and change paths.

annan_dum From: annan_dum Date: January 30th, 2012 04:09 am (UTC) (Link)
Just want you to know that even if you and Flutterby end up not housemates anymore, I would still consider you a friend. And not just on LJ. *hugs*
dangermouse72 From: dangermouse72 Date: January 30th, 2012 08:44 am (UTC) (Link)
I'm sorry that you've broken up, but it sounds like it was the right thing, and as always it's good that you've remained friends.

"feel like I've failed in some aspects but am pleased that we are both friends"

That's exactly how I felt up after my break-up.
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jackshoegazer From: jackshoegazer Date: January 31st, 2012 02:48 am (UTC) (Link)
"Then I am happy and sad for you."
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